Desire & Libido
Essays
if you are worried about the state of your own sex life post-baby, know you aren’t alone; you’re actually part of the majority. Kara Hoppe discusses how to reclaim your sexual self postpartum.
Midori discusses her cutting edge new Kink Awareness Certification program with the Sexual Health Alliance; easing into BDSM; and how to meet kink-curious people IRL. She also answers The Sex Ed community’s pressing questions about safe words, aftercare, the difference between pain and pleasure, and more!
Have you ever been curious about kink? Fancy a little extra spice in your sex life? Fantasized about being tied up—or tying your partner up—but don’t know where and how to start? Here, we break down BDSM basics with author, artist, podcast guest, and (s)expert Midori.
How can we celebrate sex in ways that emancipate our desire from feelings of shame? Can pleasure, power and porn be redefined as a means to teach us about sex and connection?
Watch filmmaker and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz Goldwyn, in conversation with award-winning, international indie adult filmmaker, Erika Lust, moderated by journalist and editor Danielle Kwateng-Clark.
The trio address the responsibility of representing female sexuality across creative mediums, while reframing the dialogue around pornography and gender equality.
Join acclaimed designer Christopher Kane, founder of The Sex Ed Liz Goldwyn, and journalist, author and critic Alex Fury for a discussion about sex and fashion.
In this piece, Ruba talks about wishing there was more open support around postpartum sex and sexuality; the pressures she felt to ‘get back into the swing of it,’ despite not feeling ready; the lube she considers to be a game-changer; and more.
For this deep dive on gender identity, health & transitioning we’re breaking some of these broad concepts down with Dr. Amy Weimer, founder of the Gender Health Program at UCLA, which offers comprehensive medical and surgical care to the transgender and gender diverse community in Los Angeles and across the United States.
We asked Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, sexual medicine specialist and regular The Sex Ed contributor; to break down what happens to our bodies during perimenopause and menopause and lay out some of the safe treatment options that can help make these years fulfilling and juicy!
The origin of the word “aphrodisiac” comes from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sexual love, beauty, desire, pleasure, and procreation, whose nectar of choice was said to be sticky, sweet honey. It’s no wonder that we’ve carried these sexy sensibilities to define the treats that spark arousal!
Beyond dispelling the myths of the last century, how does our current understanding of cannabis’ action in the brain inform how it can be used for a healthy sex life? For one, we now recognize that there’s far more to cannabis than just THC, and there’s an extensive array of targets in the brain and body that the cannabinoids act upon to convey their therapeutic and wellness benefits.
What happens when cumming doesn’t work out the way we think it will? There are all types of common ejaculatory problems: You can pop prematurely or cum too late or sometimes not at all. Sometimes individuals jizz backwards; and sometimes they can even experience severe pain when they climax.
Sex launched my journalism career (in a good way!) Although I earn a majority of my living writing about sex, and do so all the time, I’ve hardly ever written about my own sex life. The last time I read something I wrote about my own sex life aloud was in the 11th grade when I read a spoken word poem about all the Smirnoff-scented oral sex I had performed the semester before for a huge assembly of students and staff.
My first real job was as a paid intern for Planned Parenthood. I was 13 and hadn’t gone “all the way.” I was working in the office at the Santa Monica clinic in Los Angeles in the thick of STD testing with anti-abortionists picketing outside—plunged into the deep end of my “professional” sex education.
As a sexual medicine specialist, I get asked questions about erectile dysfunction (ED) all the time. How do I know if I have erectile dysfunction? Does one disappointing boner experience mean there’s a serious problem? Is ED permanent or can it be fixed? Is this thing physical or something in my head? Let me break down the facts:
As a certified, professional sex coach, I am frequently asked what is “normal sex.” Here is the truth—our sexuality is as unique as our own fingerprints.
Podcast
Do you ever feel stuck in your head during sex, not quite able to fully tune into your body? Sometimes it can help to center yourself with a pre-sex body scan. That’s right, listening to this meditation can enhance your pleasure – be it solo or with a partner. Host Liz Goldwyn guides you through a quick body scan to get you feeling yourself and centered.
Join Liz and Soulei Goe for a Sound Bath. A sound bath is a meditative experience that uses sound frequencies to induce a state of tranquility in the body and brain. We encourage you to enjoy, sit back and float as you listen to this special recording that’s designed to help you let go.
The Sex Ed Podcast is BACK with a special holiday treat! We’re giving you the tools to expand your pleasure potential and bliss out. Liz Goldwyn guides you through a meditation designed to help you breathe your way to orgasmic bliss with this special edition release.
This week’s podcast guest Lykke Li is a singer, songwriter, mother and co-owner of Yola Mezcal. She has been on tour supporting her record SO SAD SO SEXY and follow-up EP, STILL SAD STILL SEXY, which came out in 2018 and 2019. Lykke and Liz talk about creating art from pain; motherhood in the music business; why she’s over music festivals and how her personal definitions of love have evolved.
This week’s podcast features Asa Akira—legendary porn star, podcaster, author, PornHub ambassador—and a new mom. Asa and Liz talk about her pregnancy and postpartum experiences and how they affected her sex drive; what it means to be a MILF; and how she’s navigating and winning the shifting landscape of the adult biz.
Our guest this week is Dr. Linda Mona, a highly honored clinical psychologist specializing in patients with chronic health conditions and disabilities. Dr. Mona works as a consultant to healthcare service providers, in addition to her private practice, where she focuses on the importance of sexual health as a means of improving overall quality of life. Dr. Mona and Liz talk about digital dating with a disability; her favorite sex toy recommendations and how a disability can in fact make you MORE creative in the bedroom.
Today, our guest is Barbara Carrellas, the founder of Urban Tantra, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. Barbara and Liz talk about conscious kink; that one time she had an energy orgasm in a tree; how Tantra can prepare you for death; and so much more.
Our guest for this episode is Sahar Pirzada, a social worker, organizer and educator. In this episode, Sahar and Liz talk about their own experiences of Islamophobia in the reproductive health care system; how to meet people where they’re at with sex education needs; and why faith and sexuality are not mutually exclusive.
Dr. Wendy Cherry is a Sex Therapist and Executive Director and co-founder of the American Association of Couples and Sex Therapists (AACAST.) Dr. Cherry is also Co-Director of UCLA’s AACAST’s programming, for Medical residents, undergrads, licensed and practicing sex therapists. On this episode, Liz and Wendy cover what sex therapy is and how it works, how we can overcome internalized erotic shame, and how to break the ice to your partner when you want to address an issue in the bedroom.
Sunny Rodgers is a clinical sexologist, certified sex coach, sex educator, ordained minister, and, among many, many other things— a regular contributor to TheSexEd.com. In this episode, Liz and Sunny cover everything from non-gendered sex toys, to prostate pleasure to the healing power of sex.
Nina Hartley is a world-famous adult film actress, director, author, and educator. She first achieved mainstream recognition in the 80s and 90s for promoting sex-positive feminism. In this interview, we discuss Nina’s early training as a Registered Nurse, feminism in the 1970s, and sex as an artistic medium. You can find Nina at her website, nina.live and follow her on Twitter where she’s @ninaland. Watch a video here of a talk we had at the Hammer Museum in Los Angeles.
Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, MD, is a urologist specializing in Sexual Medicine. He has devoted his career to studying and treating sexual dysfunction, with a special concentration on LGBTQ+ issues. On this episode we discuss erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, birth control side effects, and a whole host of other medical mysteries that don’t get discussed enough in polite company.
Lou Paget is a certified sex educator who travels the world sharing accurate, practical information with honesty and accessibility. She’s also the bestselling author of 5 books on sexuality. In this episode, she shares her tips for the best cunnilingus and fellatio among other insights into the bedroom.
What do you imagine when you hear the word celibacy? A monk taking a vow of chastity? Someone denying themselves pleasure? Do you imagine someone saving themselves for marriage or God? Do you think that if you go too long without penetrative sex, you’ll grow cobwebs? Do you consider celibacy the absence of all orgasms - including masturbation? Have you ever gone through a period of self-imposed celibacy? For our season three finale, Liz dives deep into the topic of Celibacy with the help of some friends and guests from this season.
Ramy Youssef is the Golden Globe-winning creator and star of Ramy on Hulu, which debuts its second season on May 29th. Liz spoke with Ramy about faith and sex; observing Ramadan during quarantine; the differences between his fictional and real self; filling the void with emotional eating and porn; and how to find the middle ground between earthly desires and the divine.
Ana de la Reguera is an actress, producer and activist. Liz talked to Ana about her new semi-autobiographical TV show, ANA, which she created, wrote, produced and stars in; her experiences in the telenovela world; why you need to find someone who’s got check, chic and shock; and how she’s coming of age sexually in her 40s.
Books
Charting Kiki and Man Ray’s volatile relationship, award-winning historian Mark Braude illuminates for the first time Kiki’s seminal influence not only on Man Ray’s art, but on the culture of 1920s Paris and beyond. The works they made together, including the Surrealist icons Le Violon d’Ingres and Noire et blanche, now set records at auction. As provocative and magnetically irresistible as Kiki herself, Kiki Man Ray is the story of an exceptional life that will challenge ideas about artists and muses―and the lines separating the two.
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Finely dressed and finely drunk, Charlie Price is a man dedicated to his vices. Chief among them is his explicit novel collection, though his impending marriage to a woman he can’t love will force his carefully curated collection into hiding. Before it does, Charlie is determined to have one last hurrah: meeting his favorite author in person, Miles Montague.
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With Sex, Health, and Consciousness, Liz Goldwyn, founder of the thriving online platform and podcast The Sex Ed, has created an inclusive, holistic, and much-needed guide to sexual well-being—and the pleasure that's possible when we embrace our sexuality as a natural part of a healthy human experience.
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This book redresses the balance, revealing the history of the sex trade through the eyes of sex workers. These tales are brought to life by Whores of Yore creator Kate Lister’s witty and authoritative text, and illuminated by a rich archive of photographs, artworks, and objects offering insight into sex workers’ lives, challenging assumptions about this age-old trade.
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Written by a psychologist and relationship expert, Baby Bomb offers powerful tools based in psychology and neurobiology to help you and your partner co-parent and co-partner as a solid and supportive team--while also cultivating mad love for each other! You'll find more than just "tips" for better parenting and partnering; you'll discover how a secure-functioning relationship is essential for raising happy, healthy kids.
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How do we make social justice the most pleasurable human experience? How can we awaken within ourselves desires that make it impossible to settle for anything less than a fulfilling life? Adrienne Maree Brown finds the answer in something she calls "pleasure activism," a politics of healing and happiness that explodes the dour myth that changing the world is just another form of work.
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There is still a shocking lack of accurate, accessible information about pussies and many esteemed medical sources seem to contradict each other. Pussypedia solves that with extensive reviews of peer-reviewed science that address old myths, confusing inconsistencies, and the influence of gender narratives on scientific research–always in simple, joyful language.
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Want to know how to masturbate? Here's your guide. Masturbation doesn't have to be a taboo topic! This straightforward, unapologetic illustrated guide to self-pleasure will teach you what you need to know to get to know your own body. This inclusive manual covers basic anatomy, techniques, mindsets, orgasms, troubleshooting, and a wide range of the tools and toys.
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A comprehensive and fun-to-read guidebook for people of all sexual identities and experience levels, Getting It covers all the bases of hook-up culture from first moves and sex etiquette to navigating non-monogamy and sexual health. In an era of endless crossed signals and heightened awareness of consent and respect, award-winning author and sex educator Allison Moon shows you how to achieve safe and enjoyable encounters by practicing clear communication and consideration of all parties involved--yourself included.
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Plays Well in Groups provides a historical and cultural history of group sex throughout the ages. From depictions in Paleolithic cave art to the Playboy mansion, Katherine Frank delves into the fields of sociology, biology, anthropology, and psychology to provide explanations for both, participation in group sex and the complex reactions to it—from fascination to fear. This book draws on survey research, ethnographic observation around the world, and interviews with participants to offer a cross-cultural look at the manifestations and meanings of group sex; who has it, and why.
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Can a person literally die of loneliness? Is there such a thing as a "cancer personality"? Drawing on scientific research and the author's decades of experience as a practicing physician, this book provides answers to these and other important questions about the effect of the mind-body link on illness and health and the role that stress and one's individual emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases.
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A journey into the Big Questions that will turn you into a thinking person about sex and consent, with the ability to wrestle towards the answers that work for YOU and continue to wrestle towards them for the rest of your life. What is the meaning and purpose of sex? How does it intersect with who I am? Why are people so afraid of it? What does a healthy and joyful approach to sex look like for me? Why is consent so much more than a yes or no question?
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Biographer Charlotte Chandler draws on a series of interviews she conducted with the star just months before her death in 1980, as well as interviews with people who worked or lived with her. Actress, playwright, screenwriter, and iconic sex symbol Mae West created a scandal-and a sensation-on Broadway with her play Sex in 1926. Her screenplays included some notorious one-liners that have become part of Hollywood lore, but behind the clever quips was Mae's deep desire to see women treated equally with men. She fought the double standard of the time that permitted men things that women would be ruined for doing.
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Millions of broken couples say sexual dissatisfaction was their number one reason for ending the relationship. Learn how to recover your passion, find the connection you crave, and boost your sexual confidence. Or gain the insights you need to embark on a new adventure without the sexual baggage and challenges of the past. No matter where you are in your sexual evolution, this intimate, practical guide will help you renew your curiosity, reclaim intimacy, and embrace your full potential for erotic freedom.
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On Enlightened Sex, bestselling author David Deida presents his first full-length audio curriculum for transforming your lovemaking. Through 10 in-depth sessions of guided practices, sexual skills, and provocative insights into the nature of human sexuality, David Deida shows you how to sustain the ecstasy of deep sex.
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Gay Hendricks, PhD offers a series of proven breathing and visualization exercises (some to practice alone, some with a partner) that gives you the opportunity to experience a new level of sexual bliss.
Dr. Hendricks research has shown that conscious breathing is essential to health and vitality. Now he reveals a new pathway to fulfillment for people who seek radical enhancement and deep healing of their sexuality.
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This is an all-encompassing, no-holds-barred exploration of CBD and sexual wellness. This sex positive book is full of helpful information on sexual health, empowering advice, and tips and tricks on using CBD in the bedroom.
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Assuming the Ecosexual Position tells of childhood moments that pointed to a future of ecosexuality; how the two came together as lovers and collaborators, how they took a stand against homophobia and xenophobia, and how this union led to the miraculous conception of the Love Art Laboratory.
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The notorious Marquis de Sade wrote this story of the beautiful and devout Justine, whose steadfast faith and naive trust destine her from the outset for sexual exploitation and martyrdom. The unending catalog of disasters that befall her, during which she is subject to any number of perverse practices, illustrate Sade's belief in the primacy of Nature over civilization.
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Constance, the young Lady Chatterley, is married to a handsome man. However, his physical limitations lead him to emotionally neglect Constance, and for comfort, she turns to the gamekeeper, Oliver. With explicit descriptions of sex, Lady Chatterly's Lover used language largely unseen in print at that time, which resulted in its banning and the author's censorship.
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In this poignant memoir of personal transformation, season 2 podcast guest Jill Soloway takes us on a patriarchy-toppling emotional and professional journey. Jill pushed through the male-dominated landscape of Hollywood to create the groundbreaking and award-winning Amazon TV series Transparent.
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Rebel Heart is Bebe Buell's no-holds-barred account of her life at the center of the rock scene in the '70s and '80s, when rock stars were royalty. Her relationships with musicians like wunderkind Todd Rundgren, Aerosmith's Steven Tyler—father of her daughter Liv-Mick Jagger, Jimmy Page and Elvis Costello played out against a backdrop of some of the most legendary locales of the era.
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A Curious History of Sex covers topics ranging from twentieth-century testicle thefts to Victorian doctors massaging the pelvises of their female patients, from smutty bread innuendos dating back to AD 79, to the new and controversial sex doll brothels. Podcast guest Kate Lister deftly debunks myths and stereotypes and gives unusual sexual practices a historical framework, as she provides valuable context for issues facing people today.
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As soon as she graduated from high school, Pamela Des Barres headed for the Sunset Strip, where she knocked on rock stars' backstage doors and immersed herself in the drugs, danger, and ecstasy of the freewheeling 1960s. Warm, witty, and sexy, this kiss-and-tell–all stands out as the perfect chronicle of one of rock 'n' roll's most thrilling eras.
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A comprehensive and judgment-free pregnancy companion: Nurture is the only all-in-one pregnancy and birthing book for modern mothers-to-be and their partners who want a more integrative approach. Season 1 podcast guest Erica Chidi Cohen has assisted countless births and helped hundreds of families ease into their new roles through her work as a doula.
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Awakening Fertility is a loving companion to accompany you along the journey—whether your desire to become a mother burns fiercely today or is a future calling just beginning to stir. Intended for women at every stage of the preconception process, this book offers wisdom and guidance to support your body, mind, and spirit—including nearly 50 delicious recipes to nourish yourself deeply.
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After earning a good living by stripping and working as a dominatrix at a sex dungeon, Asa Akira built up a reputation for being one of the most popular, hardworking, and extreme actors in the porn business, winning dozens of awards for her 330+ movies. In a wry, conversational tone, she talks about her experiences shoplifting and doing drugs while in school, her relationship with other porn stars (she is married to one) and with the industry at large, and her beliefs about women and sexuality.
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The sequel to Insatiable is a new book about turning thirty in the adult film trade. Internationally known as a porn star, Asa Akira's perceptive, funny, and straightforward writings on love, sex, death, marriage and celebrity come together in a surprising book of essays. Personally revealing as well as universal, Dirty Thirty marks the coming of age of a new literary star.
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The first 40 days after the birth of a child offer an essential and fleeting period of rest and recovery for the new mother. Based on author Heng Ou’s own postpartum experience with zuo yuezi, a set period of “confinement,” in which a woman remains at home focusing on healing and bonding with her baby, The First Forty Days revives the lost art of caring for the mother after birth.
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Batts adoringly and erotically lenses his wife, subject, and collaborator, adult performer April Flores throughout this visual exploration of the "thick" side of sexy. Boldy iconoclastic in its contemporary celebration of a naturally voluptuous figure, this collection of images works to dismantle the “(only) thin is pretty” paradigm.