Venus Love Language

Author: Lisa Stardust
Illustrated by Eva Hill

SEXTROLOGY 101: A  guide to understanding how you love and nurture by your Venus zodiac sign.

This is a guide and manifesto on merging our soul with our Venusian desires — to help understand how you love and nurture by zodiac sign. 

Venus, the ancient Roman goddess of love, beauty and sexuality, is much more than an enchanting star of mythology. Venus is a divine ray of light that embodies the most beautiful parts of ourselves. On days when one feels themselves radiating, it’s almost a sure sign that Venus is present in our spiritual life. Venus represents a conglomeration of everything we find attractive. Venusian love seeps through us to our heart and soul. This is why Venus is quite literally the summit of beauty and love.

Revered as a deity, the Romans celebrated Venus during the April 1st Festival of Veneralia. Offerings such as lavender and the sweet nectar of honey, were made to Venus in order to invoke an alignment with her precious and sacred gifts. When we connect with Venus, we are embracing our desires. These are the most passionate loves of our life. Venus’s fertile and luxurious disposition toward us can be felt every day. 

Venus emulates strong archetypes throughout each of the 12 zodiac signs. There are a myriad of pleasurable ways to incorporate more Venus energy into your life. Venus naturally overflows with creative chi, or life force energy,  in order to best attract what vibrates with our heart and soul — which we all want to feel. So, let’s get to know Venus now in a more personal way. 

Our Venus signs are different than our rising or sun signs — but like these aspects, our Venus sign is also dependent on the day, month, and year we are born. To find your Venus sign, please visit Cafeastrology.com. Once you have determined your Venus sign, read on!

Aries 

Your impulsive nature gets you into trouble sometimes — especially in matters of the heart as you fall in and out of love very quickly. Getting to know the person you’re dating before you commit and their break hearts will spare you relationship drama. Also, taking a step back from controlling and doing all the work in partnerships will require restraint as you like to be in charge. Strike a balance with your sweetie that allows you to always be on equal footing with them.

Taurus 

Your earthy sentiments foretells of long-lasting and sustainable relationships. Known for your sensual nature, you can seduce any person who catches your eye. Your charm and glamour will attract many admirers. You can be very stubborn when it comes to love and protective of all that you accumulate in the world (which includes people). The only romantic issue is that you can hold on to others for far too long. Do not expiration date! Let go of partnerships that are holding you back from transforming. 

Gemini 

Your airy personality lends itself toward your indulgence of several simultaneous partnerships at a time. Although you tend to commit to your one and only ride or die, you do like to keep minor flirtations at the palm of your keypad on your iPhone. You are extremely  communicative. Therefore, you are never at a loss for words. This rings especially true in the bedroom, as you love to whisper sweet nothings in the ear of your boo and vocalize your needs between the sheets. Ooh-la-la!

Cancer 

You have a tough exterior and are protective about who you let in. But, once you find the right person, you give them endless snuggles and cuddles. Never one to keep the other side of your bed cold, you’ll invite your boo over for late night movie (which is very PG-13) and popcorn to keep you company. If they appeal to your sentimental side and share the same inclinations, you’ll become smitten and never let them go. After all, declawing yourself from another is hard. 

Leo 

In life and love you have to be # 1. And, tbh this causes more drama than it’s worth. You have high standards, which not many can live up to. While you like to be the belle of the ball and most important person in your partner’s life, you demand freedom to make your own decisions when it comes to your heart which makes you a rule breaker when it comes to love (because you do what you want even if you make the rules). 

Virgo 

You may be labeled as a perfectionist in love, but that is because of your strong desire to care and empathize with others. Your response time to the demands of those closest to you is unmatched by any other sign. The caveat to your idealistic sensibilities is that you must learn to embrace the beauty of imperfection. Also, mending your neurosis and fears in partnerships can take a lifetime to overcome. You can master your relationship phobias by creating balance and routine with your boo.

Libra 

As a lover of love, you embody the Venusian joie de vivre spirit. Your only flaw in relationships is that you have a tendency to give your all to another — which can leave you longing for your own identity as you can be codependent. Let your unique creativity run wild for a few minutes in the boudoir and on dates to evoke your highest desires. You will find that this helps you to be less dependent on your other half and find your voice within partnerships. 

Scorpio

Your deep intensity, that’s associated with sexuality, power, transformation, and personal growth elevates future relationships from past ones as you are continually changing and redefining your needs. Your Ph.D. in psychology allows you to get in the minds of those you date. Craving an understanding of their actions and desires will lead you towards skillfully examining their motives as a form of soft control. Try letting go a little and trusting others more. You’ll find this allows you to access your intuition and brooding emotions. 

Sagittarius 

You have the opportunity to paint and create the style of your relationships using all the colors of the rainbow. Never allowing yourself to fall into one box, you incorporate eclectic mix of ideas and philosophies into all of your partnerships — which can make you hard to pin down by others. Your lust for life and freedom loving sentiments will motivate you to find a partner who understands your autonomous vibe, as you trot away from those who try to contain you and act possessive.

Capricorn

You may find yourself more sobering, acute, ambitious yet reserved. With Capricorn being the reliable earth sign that you are, Venus's influence in your sign gives you amazing strength to succeed in romantic relationships. The only issue is that you can become competitive with those you partner up with (in the sense that you have to outdo their sentimental notions). Love isn’t a game and there are no winners or losers. Creating a peaceful environment for you and your boo is exist together is essential. 

Aquarius

You tend to be more interested in attaining independence than with general partnership. There are ways that you can add spice to your relationship instead of being aloof. As a booster to this energy, use yourself and your significant other as a vessel of light to foster a cause in your community. You can even start small and inject your loving light into your close-knit group of friends or family members. Anything you can do to brighten both of your spirits will  add longevity to your relationship. 

Pisces 

Venus is exalted in your sign, which means that you have a special universal love and compassion for everyone and everything. Your love sees no limits and can bend to the needs of others. However, you might feel at times that your capacity for self-sacrifice is larger than others. Embracing your emotional, psychic, romantic, and gentle nature comes easy to you. But, you’ll need a stronger approach in vetting perspective partners, as you tend to breeze over red flags while wearing your rose colored glasses. 

LISA STARDUST

Lisa Stardust is a New York City-based astrologer who is known for her pop culture horoscopes. Utilizing an organic approach to creating personal magic, you will find her frequently using herbalism in her magic. Stardust acts as a guide for clients to help navigate them through finances, relationships, and other important facets of life.

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