Gender & Sexual Identity
Essays
Natassia Dreams is an iconic adult performer and high fashion model. Here, she speaks with The Sex Ed about succeeding professionally as a trans woman of color in both the fashion and adult worlds; her recent gender confirmation surgery; directing porn; advice for those who may be struggling with their identity; and much more.
The Sex Ed explores sex, health, and consciousness in the digital age. Liz Goldwyn leads a sex positive discussion with adult film star and author Nina Hartley and burlesque queen and author Dita Von Teese. Both prominent figures in their respective fields, each have helped demystify the fetish world for wider audiences and open up healthy conversations around sexuality
Founder Liz Goldwyn sits down with Girlboss and journalist Tierney Finster to talk about sex, health and consciousness.
Writer, filmmaker and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz Goldwyn, hosts an evening of conversation with Dr. Kate Lister, owner of Whores of Yore–a living archive of sexual history, and sexual anthropologist Betony Vernon, as they gather with guests to discuss erotic dress and accessories.
Watch Liz Goldwyn, writer, filmmaker and founder of The Sex Ed as she hosts a discussion with artist Genevieve Gaignard and curator Essence Harden at the inaugural Frieze Art Fair in Los Angeles. Presented by MatchesFashion.com.
How can we celebrate sex in ways that emancipate our desire from feelings of shame? Can pleasure, power and porn be redefined as a means to teach us about sex and connection?
Watch filmmaker and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz Goldwyn, in conversation with award-winning, international indie adult filmmaker, Erika Lust, moderated by journalist and editor Danielle Kwateng-Clark.
The trio address the responsibility of representing female sexuality across creative mediums, while reframing the dialogue around pornography and gender equality.
For this deep dive on gender identity, health & transitioning we’re breaking some of these broad concepts down with Dr. Amy Weimer, founder of the Gender Health Program at UCLA, which offers comprehensive medical and surgical care to the transgender and gender diverse community in Los Angeles and across the United States.
For the second part of our series on Cybersecurity, we are going to hear more from ethical hacker and cyber defense expert Thèo Anastos, as well as victim’s rights attorney and founder of cutting edge law firm C.A. Goldberg & Associates, Carrie Goldberg.
It’s long been a priority of The Sex Ed to provide our community with Cybersecurity tips—practical information on how to keep yourselves safe online. Here are some tips to protect your digital privacy from passwords to protecting your location settings.
Well, I’m 56 [years old]. I was born in Los Angeles, in the San Fernando Valley. Yeah, I’m 56 and I got into the adult industry 19 years ago. I created the genre of Trans-Male porn. It didn’t exist before I created it in the industry. I grew up a total little “Tomboy”. My parents raised me as a boy. Back in the 60’s, tomboys weren’t a problem.
Sex launched my journalism career (in a good way!) Although I earn a majority of my living writing about sex, and do so all the time, I’ve hardly ever written about my own sex life. The last time I read something I wrote about my own sex life aloud was in the 11th grade when I read a spoken word poem about all the Smirnoff-scented oral sex I had performed the semester before for a huge assembly of students and staff.
As a certified, professional sex coach, I am frequently asked what is “normal sex.” Here is the truth—our sexuality is as unique as our own fingerprints.
Podcast
What does sex, love, intimacy and consciousness look like in the digital age? For the Season 2 finale, Liz talks to three experts about where sex and artificial intelligence intersect, and where we’re going: Gray Scott, a techno-philosopher; Stephanie Dinkins, a visual artist interacting with AI as part of a revolutionary ongoing project; and Bruce Duncan, the managing director of the innovative and mysterious Terasem Movement Foundation.
This week’s guests are Nick Kroll and Andrew Goldberg, who are life-long friends as well as co-creators and writers of the hilarious, Emmy nominated animated Netflix series, Big Mouth, Season 3 of which premieres October 4th. Liz, Nick and Andrew discussed writing comedy about the awkward stages of puberty; Hormone Monsters; enthusiastic consent; andhow to be a woke man in the 21st century.
Joey Soloway is the creator, writer, and director of the groundbreaking Amazon series TRANSparent, I Love Dick, and more. Liz and Joey talked about Hollywood power dynamics, the importance of being awkward; navigating their own #MeToo moment on set - and, of course, toppling the patriarchy.
*In June of 2020, Soloway announced a preference to be referred to as Joey rather than Jill.*
On the podcast this week is Rebecca Sugar-animator, writer, musician and creator of the groundbreaking animated series Steven Universe. Rebecca is the first non-male in Cartoon Network history to create their own series, which featured the first ever engagement and wedding between same-sex characters. In this episode, Rebecca and Liz discuss the importance of making wholesome LGBTQ+ content; their role in educating children—and their parents—via entertainment; the censorship an internationally syndicated animated kid’s show faces, and the upcoming Steven Universe: The Movie, out September 2.
This week’s podcast features activist and journalist Ashlee Marie Preston. Ashlee is the first openly trans person to run for state office in California, as well as the first trans person to become editor-in-chief of a nationwide publication. Ashlee and Liz talk about how tattoos have been a source of empowerment for her; life as a survival sex worker; abstinence and how transitioning, by its very definition, doesn’t follow a linear path.
This week’s podcast guest is Dr. Rachael Ross, sexologist, family physician, mother and founder of the Dr. Rachael Institute where she certifies other sexologists. Dr. Rachael and Liz chat about the importance of age appropriate sex education, giving kids ownership over their bodies, getting back to the pleasure potential of sex, and how labels can confine us. Dr. Rachael also answered some questions submitted by our Sex Ed community!
We’re kicking off Season 2 of The Sex Ed Podcast fabulously with Violet Chachki, — iconic drag queen, aerialist and burlesque performer. Violet is the winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7 and a showgirl who tours the world. On this episode, Violet and Liz discuss Catholic school uniforms, breaking Drag Race taboos, being a fashion icon and so much more.
Harvey Guillén is a GLAAD award-winning actor and producer who currently stars as Guillermo on the FX TV show, What We Do In The Shadows. Harvey joined Liz to discuss pansexual vampires; fatphobia in the LGBTQ community; sneaking into the 18+ section of Circus of Books as a teenager; and what his dream Hollywood project is.
Mykki Blanco is an internationally renowned performance artist, LGBTQ activist, and musician who’s worked with the likes of Bjork, Kanye West, Madonna, Kathleen Hanna, Major Lazer and more. Liz sat down with Mykki in Milan in February shortly before the COVID-19 outbreak to chat about how transitioning has changed their sex life; sending letters to their heroes; being HIV positive and touring in the Middle East.
Peggy Orenstein is the author of the groundbreaking NY Times bestseller Girls & Sex, and its followup, Boys & Sex. Her byline has appeared in the NY Times, The Atlantic, Washington Post and more. Liz talked to Peggy about “feminist fuckboys”; teaching boys to embrace their vulnerability and process complex emotions; why hookup culture isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, regardless of gender; and what we can do to raise boys away from the shadow of toxic masculinity.
An exclusive episode of the podcast featuring Alessandro Michele, Gucci’s Creative Director. Liz met Alessandro in Milan to talk about his erotic relationship to nature; why Rome is his mistress; moving beyond confining modes of masculinity; his passion for dressing like a 1950s granny and how he channels orgasmic energy every day.
BOOKS
A comprehensive and fun-to-read guidebook for people of all sexual identities and experience levels, Getting It covers all the bases of hook-up culture from first moves and sex etiquette to navigating non-monogamy and sexual health. In an era of endless crossed signals and heightened awareness of consent and respect, award-winning author and sex educator Allison Moon shows you how to achieve safe and enjoyable encounters by practicing clear communication and consideration of all parties involved--yourself included.
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Some Men explores the promise of men's violence prevention work with boys and men in schools, college sports, fraternities, and the U.S. military. It illuminates the strains and tensions of such work-including the reproduction of male privilege in feminist spheres-and explores how men and women navigate these tensions.
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The effects of traditionally defined masculinity have become one of the most prevalent social issues of our time. In this engaging and provocative new book, beloved actor, director, and social activist Justin Baldoni reflects on his own struggles with masculinity. With insight and honesty, he explores a range of difficult, sometimes uncomfortable topics including strength and vulnerability, relationships and marriage, body image, sex and sexuality, racial justice, gender equality, and fatherhood.
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Plays Well in Groups provides a historical and cultural history of group sex throughout the ages. From depictions in Paleolithic cave art to the Playboy mansion, Katherine Frank delves into the fields of sociology, biology, anthropology, and psychology to provide explanations for both, participation in group sex and the complex reactions to it—from fascination to fear. This book draws on survey research, ethnographic observation around the world, and interviews with participants to offer a cross-cultural look at the manifestations and meanings of group sex; who has it, and why.
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In a world that thrives on aggression and physical force, male violence has become an all-too-frequent response to the frustrations and anxieties that fill men's lives. Men's Work gives back to men the power and responsibility they need to unlearn the lessons of control and aggression. Going beyond the mythology of the current men's movement, this revolutionary work identifies and develops the social and political framework on which to place men's individual efforts to recover their humanity.
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Biographer Charlotte Chandler draws on a series of interviews she conducted with the star just months before her death in 1980, as well as interviews with people who worked or lived with her. Actress, playwright, screenwriter, and iconic sex symbol Mae West created a scandal-and a sensation-on Broadway with her play Sex in 1926. Her screenplays included some notorious one-liners that have become part of Hollywood lore, but behind the clever quips was Mae's deep desire to see women treated equally with men. She fought the double standard of the time that permitted men things that women would be ruined for doing.
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With The Breathing Book, young readers discover the power of mindful awareness through a series of breathing practices and engaging activities designed to calm the mind and body, set positive intentions, and spark creativity and imagination. A book that’s much more than just a book, this interactive offering from Christopher Willard and Olivia Weisser invites readers to bring their full attention to the sights, sounds, and tactile sensations that arise as they explore the practices on each page with awareness.
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While many know of his transformation from Harvard psychology professor Richard Alpert to psychedelic and spiritual icon, Ram Dass tells here for the first time the full arc of his remarkable life. Populated by a cast of luminaries ranging from Timothy Leary to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Allen Ginsberg to Alan Watts—this intimate memoir chronicles Ram Dass's life across nine decades of cultural and spiritual transformation that resonate with us to this day.
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When Trevor MacDonald decided to start a family, he knew that the world was going to have questions for him. As a transgender man in a gay relationship; this memoir is a book about being a breastfeeding parent and a transgender man, and the many beautiful, moving, and difficult ways these two identities collide. “Where’s the Mother?” is a memoir like no other.
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The inspiring true story of transgender actor and activist Nicole Maines, whose identical twin brother, Jonas, and ordinary American family join her on an extraordinary journey to understand, nurture, and celebrate the uniqueness in us all.
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From the ancient poet Sappho to tombois in contemporary Indonesia, women throughout history and around the globe have desired, loved, and had sex with other women. In beautiful prose, Sapphistries tells their stories, capturing the multitude of ways that diverse societies have shaped female same-sex sexuality across time and place.
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Assuming the Ecosexual Position tells of childhood moments that pointed to a future of ecosexuality; how the two came together as lovers and collaborators, how they took a stand against homophobia and xenophobia, and how this union led to the miraculous conception of the Love Art Laboratory.
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The first and only pregnancy journal created for queer individuals and families, by a queer doula. So... You're pregnant and a little (or a lot) queer? The prompts in this journal provide an opportunity for you to reflect on your pregnancy, conception story, and parenting intentions. It is intended for pregnant people to use with or without the involvement of their partner(s) (when applicable).
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In defiance of the brutal military government that took power in Uruguay in the 1970s, and under which homosexuality is a dangerous transgression, five women miraculously find one another—and, together, an isolated cape that they claim as their own.
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The Mindful Masculinity Workbook: A Practical Guide To Healthier Masculinity provides an intensive and immersive step-by-step self-guided, solution-oriented tool bag for all men.
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Alok Vaid-Menon challenges the world to see gender not in black and white, but in full color. Taking from their own experiences as a gender-nonconforming artist, they show us that gender is a malleable and creative form of expression. The only limit is your imagination.
Ages: 12-17
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HelloFlo founder Naama Bloom’s mission is to create informed, empowered young women who are unafraid to ask questions and make the best choices for themselves and their bodies. A celebration of women's bodies and all the confusing, uncomfortable, silly, transformative, and powerful changes that occur during puberty.
Ages: 10+
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LGBTQ is the indispensable resource for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning teens—and their allies. This fully revised and updated third edition includes current information on LGBTQ terminology, evolving understandings of gender identity and sexual identity, LGBTQ rights, and much more. Other advice covers topics such as coming out, confronting prejudice, getting support, making healthy choices, and thriving in school and beyond.
Ages: 12+
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This sweet #ownvoices picture book celebrates the changes in a transgender boy's life, from his initial coming-out to becoming a big brother. When Aidan Became a Brother is a heartwarming book that will resonate with transgender children, reassure any child concerned about becoming an older sibling, and celebrate the many transitions a family can experience.
Ages: 4-7
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An illustrated LGBTQ+ inclusive kid's guide to sex, gender and relationships education that includes children and families of all genders and sexual orientations, covering puberty, hormones, consent, sex, pregnancy and safety.
Ages: 7-12
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A comic book for kids that includes children and families of all makeups, orientations, and gender identities, Sex Is a Funny Word is an essential resource about bodies, gender, and sexuality for children ages 8 to 10 as well as their parents and caregivers. Much more than the "facts of life" or “the birds and the bees," Sex Is a Funny Word opens up conversations between young people and their caregivers in a way that allows adults to convey their values and beliefs while providing information about boundaries, safety, and joy.
Ages: 8-10
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In this poignant memoir of personal transformation, season 2 podcast guest Jill Soloway takes us on a patriarchy-toppling emotional and professional journey. Jill pushed through the male-dominated landscape of Hollywood to create the groundbreaking and award-winning Amazon TV series Transparent.
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De Beauvoir's seminal identification of the manners in which patriarchy diminutives the role of women in romantic dynamics, culture, and society at large maintains strikingly disturbing relevance in today's #Timesup ideologically shifting moment.
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Authored entirely while Genet was imprisoned, this largely autobiographical account details the then-illicit encounters of Paris' homosexual underground. A breathtaking snapshot of love and life within the margins.
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For decades the comprehensive exploration of female bodies, minds, and sexualities has remained a definitive source of thoughtfully culled information for women ranging in age from early adolescence to late adulthood. Updates in 2005 and 2011 shed vital contemporary light on the book's many considerations.
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In authoring this pioneering feminist manifesto, Friedan helped to unleash too long stifled dialogues surround the patriarchal subordination of women in Western society. Though the feminist community's ideologies continue to evolve more nuanced and inclusive, none can refute the historical influence that this landmark testament maintains.
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A lady never kisses and tells. A "hustler"—by contrast—is likely to spill several juicy beans, as Bowers does within this behind the screens peak at the Hollywood Golden Era's most elicit sexcapades. Odds are 5 to 1 that the only thing dropping faster than a world-famous matinee idol's trousers will be your jaw.
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Skene Johnson combs a myriad of scientific fields in order to discern just what makes us sexually "tick", along the way affirming our propensity to "tock" as uniquely differentiated individuals. A magnifying glass is cast upon gender, sexual orientation, and practice revealing that the devil—if not the delight—is indeed in the details.
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Though our innate senses of gender reside within, the overwhelming dominance of cultural programing can often make discerning them exceedingly challenging. Testa has devised this course of exercises with the objective of elucidating for individuals the nuances of their personal gender identity that might otherwise go ignored or obscured.
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Until relatively recently, the journey to gender affirmation remained a largely uncharted path for many. In this memoir, Rain Hill recounts how early childhood gender dysphoria lead to multiple attempts at taking her own life, before she realized her authentic self deserved and could have an opportunity to not only live...but thrive!